Why PF Bloggers Should Never Date Each Other

Wed, Sep 21, 2011

blogging, fincon11, random, yakezie

This post stems from a hilarious Twitter conversation between myself, @FrugalBeautiful, @Budgetable, @geekymath, @blondeonabudget, and @krystalatwork. If you aren’t following all these awesome people, you are missing out on some entertainment! (And some personal finance info every now and then too.) Oh, and if you want to follow me, I’m @sooverdebt of course!


With the Financial Blogger Conference (FINCON11) a little over a week away, some of us are slightly more demonstrative in our excitement than others. If you follow me on Twitter - and if not, I’m offended - you’ve probably seen references to things like stalkers, frou frou dresses, @FrugalBeautiful’s boobs, severed animal heads, and So Over Debt dolls made of my hair. Alcohol may or may not be a factor in these conversations.

On Monday night, the conversation on Twitter turned from FINCON11 to flirting to dating, and we joked a lot about what would happen if two personal finance bloggers started dating each other. Some people (I’m looking at you, @krystalatwork!) think it would be SO SWEET if two PF bloggers found romance at FINCON11.

Even though I’m so single it’s pathetic, I think it would be a terrible idea (though somewhat amusing) for a couple of finance nerds to attempt a relationship. And I’ll give you five reasons why.

1. Worst. Dates. Ever.

Could you IMAGINE two financially-minded people trying to go on a date?

“Tonight we’re going to walk to the park to listen to a free concert. We’ll take our own tap water in reusable bottles and sit on this blanket I made out of my old pit-stained t-shirts. When we’re done, I have a BOGO coupon for ramen noodles! Then we’ll head back to my place and watch Til Debt Do Us Part, which I’m streaming because I no longer pay for cable.”

“But what about dessert?”

“Um, I’m on a budget. And I THOUGHT you were too. I’m starting to think we’re just too different.”

2. On a related note, when would you have TIME for dating?

[at dinner]

“Hey, someone retweeted my rant about minimalism!”

[at the movies]

“I feel guilty spending this much money. Plus I need to be working on a post.”

“Me too. You want to just leave? My laptop’s in the car.”

[on the phone]

“Do you mind switching to chat? I’m trying to get through my backlog of emails.”

3. You couldn’t fight like a normal couple.

“Why didn’t you Google +1 my last post?”

“Sorry, I didn’t have time to read it yet. I was responding to the comments on my site.”

“You don’t care about me at all! I’m unfollowing you on Twitter!”

“Well I’m unsubscribing from your RSS feed!”

“At least I understand investing!”

“Yeah, you have plenty of time to learn about it since NO ONE LIKES YOUR BLOG!”

“Tomorrow I’m SO posting about why the single life is more frugal.”

4. Your posts would start overlapping.

Most bloggers talk about issues that are relevant to them at the time. If you’re dating, you might post about ways to save money on dates. If you’re engaged, you’ll talk about saving on weddings. Pregnant bloggers tend to post about things like college funds, buying baby supplies, and frugal ways to clothe Junior. All of us inject a little of our lives into our blogs.

So what happens when your blog becomes a mirror image of your significant other’s blog? People will get bored. And who takes credit for the post idea that comes up during a trip to the grocery store? Do you flip a coin? What if s/he posts a review of nasal strips while casually mentioning that you sound like a foghorn? Things like that are only funny if there’s ONE blogger in the relationship.

5. Money-related euphemisms and pickup lines are SO lame.

Okay, I’ll admit that most euphemisms and pickup lines are lame. But could you imagine the stuff PF bloggers would come up with? It would be cringeworthy.

“Hey baby, my interest is rising. Better hurry while rates are low!”

“I’d feature your guest posts for free any day!”

“I’d love to get a closer look at your portfolio.”

“Nice earrings. I bet you bought those on sale.”

“Want to compare plugins?”

“Have a drink with me, and I’ll give you an extra entry into my giveaway!”

PF Bloggers: Just say NO to dating other PF bloggers. Trust me.

Though if anyone wants to send me flowers, I wouldn’t be mad. I like orchids.

71 Responses to “Why PF Bloggers Should Never Date Each Other”

  1. Jason says:

    You said boobs.  I totally followed every one of those twitter accounts because of it.

  2. Carrie Smith says:

    HA! This is so funny and pretty much true. I especially love the money-related pickup lines.

  3. Eric J. Nisall says:

    Plus, there are the arguments that will ensue if one starts getting significantly more followers, and the conspiracy theories among other bloggers that the two will be in cahoots secretly trying to get the other more juice!

  4. Shawanda says:

    As much as I hate spending money, I can't be with a guy who's like me. Ultimately, I wanna be a kept woman. (I make no apologies for that.) However, it's really important that I'm with someone who's financially conscious. So, regardless of how much money my guy has it's unlikely he'll spend money on me frivolously. 

    The worse kind of men are those who are cheap with you but ridiculously irresponsible with their money. I don't have any patience for those kind.

    • Well Heeled Blog says:

      " those who are cheap with you but ridiculously irresponsible with their money" - I think those kind of people are very unpleasant to be around… especially when you are splitting dinner checks!

  5. Ashley @ Money Talks says:

    You hit the nail on the head with #4.  It would be impossible to both blog in the same "sphere" without overlap!  I mean, who gets to blog about the buy one get one free movie tickets!!!  You'd have to combine blogs.  Oh, and then the break up would be terrible!!!

    I love me a frugal guy, so a frugal date is not a turn off for me at all. I respect that. 

  6. Anonymous says:

    Damn it, I was totally going to ask you out!!

    As a side note, I just laughed so loud the guy who smells next to me at the library gave me a sideways glare.

    And I'm following everyone on that list asap!

  7. Happy Homeowner says:

    Wow…love, love, love this.  Section 5 is being retweeted over the next few hours….  

  8. Brucebucks says:

    This is hilarious! Great Post.

  9. Sandy - yesiamcheap says:

    “I’d love to get a closer look at your portfolio.”  Such a nerd.

  10. 20's Finances says:

    Once again, hilarious! Great work.I hope you didn't jinx yourself.

    P.S. You should try clicking on the link in my feed. :)

  11. SB @ Onecentatatime says:

    oh, I SO want to date a PF blogger girl. Damn! I am married. 

  12. Anonymous says:

    Although that makes sense, then who is left?  Spendaholics?  

  13. j. money says:

    Hahahaa.. now I REALLY can't wait for FINCON! :)

  14. World of Finance says:

    This is hilarious!  Thanks for sharing :)

  15. Shannyn @frugalbeaut says:

    Or social media romance… flirting via tweets or commentor crushes can go terribly wrong!  I don't know though, guys can find a GREAT deal on orchids or roses if they're into personal finance!

  16. Stephanie says:

    Hahah, this is hilarious!  But definitely true!  But think of how cute it would be if pf bloggers got together!

  17. Diva says:

    hilarious! Love it!

  18. Annabelle Hepburn says:

    Love it. Great post!

  19. Anonymous says:

    Hahahaha…this is so funny! I could really picture something like this - especially the frugal date part.

  20. Jackie says:

    Hilarious! But imagine if you had a pf blog together. Half the work!

    • That's an interesting thought… I don't know if I could stand it - I'd be editing the poor guy's posts to fix grammar and spelling, harping on him about posting on his designated days, critiquing his writing ("How can you post about saving on bank fees when you pay fees all the time?"), and just generally being a pain in the ass. Might work for people who aren't me, though!

    • Stephanie says:

      I've definitely seen quite a few of these around. Wish that I had bookmarked a few right now.

  21. Kevin @ DebtEye says:

    HAHA, what a great read.  Love it!

  22. Cash Flow Mantra says:

    Very funny.  I liked this.  Hope you all have a good time at the conference.  Maybe next year I can be there as well.

  23. Suzanne Cramer says:

    This post is hysterical! Who said personal finance was boring….

  24. Magical Penny.com says:

    OMG I'm totally gutted I can't come across the pond to FINCON11. You guys are awesome. (My new girlfriend thinks its hilarious I blog about PF :)

  25. Boomer and Echo says:

    Hilarious post!  Maybe two anonymous pf bloggers are already dating and don't even know about each others' secret identity. 

  26. The Money Drain says:

    lollll, hilarious :)

  27. slug says:

    Nice post.  You just got a new follower.

  28. Carrie Starr says:

    This is hysterical!  You have just guaranteed that I am going to subscribe to your blog AND follow you on twitter!  Thanks for making the personal finance world so much more fun. =)

  29. Buck Inspire says:

    Hilarious!  You should consider being a personal finance comedian.  You would kill!

  30. Rafiki says:

    This was hilarious.

    One point I might argue is that it just might be interesting to see two pf bloggers who are in a relationship with each other post about the same thing in their lives from different perspectives.

  31. eemusings says:

    This is excellent! Haven't laughed so hard all week.

  32. Single To The Penny says:

    This made me laugh out loud! I had to re read it several times! I think it can work, just it has to be kept of-line!

  33. Marissa says:

    Ha. Wow. "nice earrings. I bet you got those on sale" has actually been uttered by me a few times.

  34. Anonymous says:

    The worst PF Blogger pickup line? (Caution: this is crass).

    "Hey baby, I act in bed like I do in the stock market — I don't pull out too early."

    (That joke was inspired by a Twitter conversation between Flexo and Jeremy / Gen X Finance.)


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